Don’t let anyone take you for granted.

Don’t let anyone take you for granted.

I came to the USA in 2011 after completing my Btech degree in Delhi, India. My husband & I had a love marriage, & he encouraged me to take some time off & enjoy our time in the US. So for 3 years, we traveled & explored various places.

However, when my school friends arrived on an H4 visa & wanted to work, they could not. I realized I have the luxury to work on the visa that I am on, so I didn’t want to waste my talents & started looking for job opportunities. In 2014, I landed an incredible job at the Indian embassy in New York, which was a great learning experience. After 5 years, my husband & I decided to start a family, & I left my job to focus on raising our child.

Unfortunately, when I was 8 months pregnant, my husband left me. I hit my rock bottom, but with the support of my in-laws & parents, I delivered my baby & took a year off to focus on raising her. However, finding a job after a career gap was tough, so my family suggested that I join a master’s program, which was affordable as I became a USA citizen at this point so I paid the resident fee. 

During my studies, I encountered discrimination from a male student, who was not willing to work with me because he didn’t consider women could do well as software engineers. This was a turning point for me. I decided to become a software developer, even though it was not considered an easy job for girls. In 2020, I landed a job in a financial company amidst the pandemic, & the following year, I got a job, which was the best thing that happened to me apart from my daughter.

Through all my struggles, I learned never to give up on my career & to have my own identity. I realized the importance of taking care of myself physically & mentally & learning from people around me. I also applied for a divorce after 12 years of marriage.

To all the girls who come here, I want to encourage you to never give up on your career & always have your own identity. Don’t let anyone take you for granted, & be prepared for the rainy days. Take care of yourself both physically & mentally, learn from watching others, & be open to making connections. Always remember to love yourself & never give up, no matter what struggles you face.

"Finding a job after a career gap was tough, so my family suggested that I join a master's program, which was affordable as I became a USA citizen at this point so I paid the resident fee."

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